I always get these kind of questions from friends and family: “What do you want to do art for if you aren’t an artist?” and the ubiquitous trio, “What good is that? How can you make money with that? Can you sell it?”. What should I tell them?
I hear you. If you are the black sheep of the family or others don’t enjoy making things like you do this might come up – especially in the holiday period if you lug a sketchbook with you to outdoor gatherings, or are busy taking up-close photos of Christmas lunch. Well. I don’t know your friends and family so I cat be sure what will work to help them understand you better, but here are some answers I just made up – I hope they help!
“Some people knit or sew or birdwatch, I draw”
“Art is like having a hot bath – relaxes me and washes away the day.”
“Humans have been making art for thousands of years – long before there were galleries and agents. I’m continuing that tradition.”
“Who says I’m not an artist?”
“Art helps me feel good about life, and process my feelings and make sense of what happens in the world.”
“Would you ask why would you want to bake a cake if you’re not a full time pastry chef?”
“I think making art is part of staying healthy. It’s like the gym for my hands and brain. I’m just stretching my creativity muscles and staying fit on the inside.”
“Aw you know.. art makes me feel good, and doesn’t hurt anyone. There are plenty worse ways to spend my time.”
“You know how some people sing in the shower because it makes them feel good? That’s like me playing with clay – it just feels good, even if no one else sees it or I’m a bit off tune”
“I’m teaching myself some great new skills with acrylic right now – I love learning”
“Making art saves me money – I decorate my home AND entertain myself for the cost of just crayons.”
“I could make money from it by selling it or teaching it but right now I’m happy working in job at the (blah blah) and doing this just for love.”
” I prefer to make things as a hobby rather than just buy things. I think it’s better for the environment if I do less shopping and spend my time honing my skills instead.”
“I could sell it but I choose not to right now, I’m focusing on doing it for the joy of it.”
“How can you put a price on happiness? Some people would pay top dollar to have the kind of fun I have when I’m making art.”
“I love making things with my hands, it feels good. That’s good enough reason for me.”
Some of these answers are a bit cheeky, a bit provocative even, but I want to give you permission to gently question the questioners too if you have that kind of relationship.
You might even want to try having the conversation in your imagination through journaling. To do this, first write out the kind of comments you’re scared of hearing, then write out all the responses that you can think of, from angry, to cheeky, to witty, to reasonable, to heartfelt. Maybe even let your non dominant hand do the writing back and as you write feel the feelings that come up. Be angry, let tears flow. Keep writing until the emotions feel like they have passed through. Then go make yourself a cup of herbal tea or go for a walk and let the feeling of standing your ground and knowing your truth sink in.
You could also just try making a long mega list for yourself in your journal: ‘I love making art because’ or ‘I’m allowed to do what I love because…’.
The more open hearted joyful answers might be easier to give when you remember the pleasure that making brings you.
I also find that when we doubt ourselves it feels much harder to be questioned by others. When we feel sure in ourselves that what we do is ‘worthwhile’ / ‘allowed’ answering questions like this becomes much less threatening. So maybe practice saying and believing some of these answers yourself, as well as sharing them with others.
How do you answer this question? Share your ideas!